Death is an inevitable part of life but knowing that doesn’t make it any easier. Whether it be a pet or a loved one, death is something that most people fear. Whether it is the fear of the unknown or the fear of leaving the world behind, death is something that most people cannot come to terms with despite knowing that it is a part of life.
And things get tougher when it is the passing of a mother.
A writer decided to take to her blog in order to showcase the three things that she learned after her mother passed away.
She wrote: ‘my mother died from ovarian cancer when I was a young child.’
‘I’m in my late 30s now, and I’m still navigating this loss as I move through life. I’ve lived most of my life without my mother at this point, but I still miss her.’
The first thing she explained was that the feeling of grief is not linear. It doesn’t peak immediately after a death and slowly dissipates away. In fact, it may never dissipate away.
‘It’s natural to grieve, but we all grieve differently. Grief shows up in anger, sorrow, guilt, fear, and sometimes peace. It is unpredictable and, at times, exhausting.’
She said that following her mother’s death, she cried a lot. She cried at her funeral and also at the school choir. But the years that followed she didn’t cry as much.
‘Then sadness hit me like a ton of bricks one day when I was in my early 20s.’
‘A compassionate friend asked me about Mam, and as I hadn’t spoken about her to anyone outside the family, I broke down. It was a good release. The years have brought many stages of grieving.’
She went on to explain how days, such as Mother’s Day or the day when she picked out her wedding dress, are some of the toughest days for her to endure.